Before you go away
To the one you do belong
So glad we met and you stayed
Though it wasn’t very long
Was it only just a dream
Its over now it seems
If there were no goodbyes
Would you say that you still care
I won’t believe my eyes
When I see you won’t be there
‘Cause this love so hard to find
Now you’re leavin’ me behind
Oh please

CHORUS:
Show me and tell me
How do you put this love aside
(And) Put it away for another time
With no guarantee that you’ll be mine
A fool I am it seems
‘Cause I’ll been lovin’ you in my dreams
Until I wake up and I find out
That time ain’t our friend
I’ll just stay a fool till the end

(Till the end, I’ll be a fool)
(Till I find its me and you)
If it only was game
Why’d you have to fool my heart
Oh boy ain’t it a shame
That we promised from the start
That our love was here to stay
For each and everyday
If I had only known
And if I didn’t have to care
Then being all alone
It wouldn’t be so hard to bear
This love so hard to find
That we’re leavin’ here behind
Oh please

Repeat chorus

I maybe over acting
I know I must stay strong
But you pulled the string too hard
And now we’re going on our own

Repeat chorus

Till the end
You know I just stay a fool

Youngblood
Quarter-life clichés

By J.A. Espiritu
Philippine Daily Inquirer
First Posted 02:42:00 09/20/2008

I have never really believed there’s such a thing as a quarter-life crisis,
until I felt the stirrings of one in my very ordinary life. A couple of
years ago, I wrote about how I was enjoying what I was doing and how noble
and gratifying my work was. Today my work remains noble and gratifying, and
I still enjoy what I do—sometimes. But in the past year, I have had visions
of what I’d like my future to be: those silent, insistent fantasies of a
better life, the restless call to a free spirit. I have made it a point to
live my life minus the what-ifs. But on dull weekend afternoons when I just
want to shut my mind off from the work on my table, I find myself thinking
about those many what-ifs in my life.

Looking back now, I cannot blame anyone for the decisions I have made. I’m
repeating a cliché here that many people have used once or twice: We are
responsible for the decisions we make and the life we lead.

Several months ago, I was updating myself on my high school friends’ lives
(thanks to Friendster) and learned that two of them graduated from medical
school last March. The last time we met, we were talking about our
professions, medical school and our love life (or the lack of it). Now,
everyone was addressing them as “Doctor.” It made me think of the college
application I had filled up many, many years ago. My dad wanted me to take
up Biology and go to med school but I was hell-bent on taking a course I
was interested in. What would have happened if I had heeded his advice?

Then, there are my two other friends who have just finished their graduate
studies overseas. It hadn’t occurred to me that two years had already
passed and they had finished their graduate programs until I saw their
graduation pictures. When they first told me about going abroad to study, I
felt that two years would be so long and I would rather spend the time
earning money. Now I wonder if I should have accomplished that application
for overseas study when I had the chance.

Three of my other college friends are working abroad, each with her own
family. They’re doing well, I’ve heard.

Another friend took the plunge and quit her job a couple of years ago. She
joined an exchange volunteer program and a year later, she seems to be
enjoying her life, taking things easy and slowing down, without any
pressure to join the rat race.

I used to have the same dreams: of traveling, learning new things, meeting
different people, being exposed to different cultures, and building a name
for myself in a place where I am indispensable. Now I wonder what happened
to those dreams and if I will ever have the chance to pursue them. When
will I ever have the guts to go for something that I want?

I must admit I’m a bit of a coward and definitely not a risk-taker. So in
hindsight, I don’t have the right to be asking myself this question and
wondering what my life might have been. Much of what my life is now is a
product of the decisions I made. Now I wonder about the wisdom of my
rebellious decision to take the course I wanted. Perhaps I should have
heeded my dad. But then again, I wonder if I would have been happy in the
end.

Am I happy now? I’m happy that I have my independence. I’m happy that I can
pay my bills and go on a shopping spree every now and then. I’m happy that
I’m not working 48 hours straight, which would be the case had I gone to
med school. I’m happy that my bank account is stable, which wouldn’t be the
case if I had spent two years studying abroad on a scholarship. And I’m
happy that, despite being eight hours away from home, I’m still close
enough to my family, which wouldn’t be the case if I were working abroad
and earning greenbacks.

But why do I feel like I am in a rut?

I suppose human beings are naturally insatiable. We hunger for so many
things and we can’t be satisfied with the things we have. Some time in our
lives, we long for something else, something better. I guess this is the
reason there are rich people in this world. No one wants to be poor,
everyone wants a better life for himself.

Assuming I’m wrong about human nature, I must be just a restless character.
Like the air, I need to move around, not get stuck in one place where I
will become stagnant. Like a bird (pardon the cliché again), I need to
spread my wings and fly. Or perhaps this is just a phase, if there really
is a quarter-life crisis wherein people like me at the height (or low) of
their career are haunted by their childhood dreams and idealism. Perhaps
this is just a period people go through, a time to take stock of what they
have and think about what they would like to be in the next 25 years.

Or this could simply be a case of discontent. I am probably torn between
leaving my comfort zone and going after something uncertain, and just
settling for what the present has to offer and trying to find comfort in
it.

I often think about my doctor-friends, my friends who have just finished
their graduate studies, my friends who are working abroad and my other
friend who is just taking things easy. I wonder if they have any regrets
about the paths they took and the “losses” they had to absorb before
reaching their destinations.

Another cliché comes to mind (I must have read this a hundred times in
different books): Life is all about choices. I suppose my doubts and
restlessness won’t go away unless I finally make a good choice. But is
there really a right choice? Some time between now and the next five years,
before I make another major decision in my life, I need to sit down and
think about what I would like to become and how I would like the rest of my
life to be.

Perhaps the first step is to learn from the stories of these friends of
mine. As they say, the grass always looks greener on the other side of the
fence. Perhaps I’m missing something about the realities of that other
side. If their stories cannot teach me the value of plunging into the
unknown, then I hope they will teach me the value of being satisfied with
and grateful for the things I have.

J.A. Espiritu is taking her master’s at the University of the Philippines,
Los Baños, while teaching at the same university.

I should seriously consider listing all the reasons why I should forget “him” and finally move on with my life…

One smile and everything else vanishes…I don’t know how to explain it but it is true! I hate him but everything else changes when he smiles…

NA UNSA MAN KO OI!

mangita na ko ug ballpen ug papel, mas maayo na nga akong isuwat para dili ko kalimot (effetive ba pud kaha ni sa?)

ingon ani jud ni ang mahiguma? nganong wala man nagsulti nako ani oist!

Last night was very weird, I had a very interesting dream…
I woke up with a smile and I knew, today was going to be special and I will be smiling all day! 

(which happened to be very true, my entire day was so good!)

For some, they may actually say “so what if you had one silly dream that made you smile the whole day?”, but it really was so eye-opening and very beautiful that I woke up and felt motivated to start up my day! (which I haven’t felt for a VERY LONG TIME!)

“I Love You” in Different Languages

Afrikaans : Ek is lief vir jou Ek het jou lief Albanian : Te dua Amharic : Afekrishalehou Arabic : Ana Behibak (to a male) Ana Behibek (to a female) Basc : Nere Maitea Bavarian : I mog di narrisch gern Bengali : Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi Berber : Lakh tirikh Bicol : Namumutan ta ka Bulgarian : Obicham te Cambodian : kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ah Bon sro lanh oon Cantonese : Ngo oi ney Catalan : T’estim (mallorcan) T’estime (valencian) T’estimo (catalonian) T’estim molt (I love you a lot) Chinese : Wo ie ni (Manderin, Cantonese) Croatian : Volim te (most common), or Ja te volim (less common) Czech : miluji te Danish : Jeg elsker dig Dutch : Ik hou van jou Estonian : Mina armastan sind Esperanto : Mi amas vin Persian (Farsi) : Tora dust midaram Flemish : Ik zie oe geerne Finnish : Mina” rakastan sinua French : Je t’aime Friesian : Ik bin fereale op dy Ik ha^ld fan dy (Most commonly used phrase) (the ^ is above the a) Gaelic : Ta gra agam ort German : Ich liebe Dich I mog Di ganz arg! (Suebian: South German dialekt.) Greek : S’ ayapo Gujarati (a dialect of India) “Tane Prem Karoo Choo” Hausa : Ina sonki Hebrew : aNEE oHEIVET oTKHA (female to male) aNEE oHEIV otAKH (male to female) Ani ohev at (man to woman) Ani ohevet atah (woman to man) Hindi: Mein Tumse Pyar Karta Hoon Hokkien : Wa ai lu Hopi : Nu’ umi unangwa’ta Hungarian : Szeretlek te’ged Icelandic : ?g elska ßig Indonesian : Saya cinta padamu Saya Cinta Kamu Aku tjinta padamu Saja kasih saudari Italian : Ti amo Irish : taim i’ ngra leat Japanese : Kimi o ai shiteru Kazakh : Men seny jaksy kuremyn Kiswahili : Nakupenda Korean : Tangsinul sarang ha yo Kurdish : Ez te hezdikhem Latin : Te amo Vos amo Lao : Khoi huk chau Latvian : Es Tev milu Lingala : Nalingi yo Lithuanian: Ash miliu tave Luo : Aheri Madrid lingo : Me molas, tronca Malay/Indonesian : Saya cintakan awak(awak=kamu=you) Aku sayang engkau (engkau=kamu=you) Malay : Saya cintamu Saya sayangmu Maltese: Inhobbok! (Added by Christine ) Mandarin : Wo ai ni Mohawk : Konoronhkwa Navajo : Ayor anosh’ni Ndebele : Niyakutanda Norwegian : Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) Eg elskar deg (Nynorsk) Pakistani : Muje se mu habbat hai Persian : Tora dost daram Pilipino : Mahal Kita Iniibig Kita Polish : Ja Cie Kocham or Kocham Cie (Pronounced Yacha kocham) Portuguese : Eu te amo Romanian : Te iu besc Russian : Ya lyublyu tebya Ya vas lyublyu Scot Gaelic : Tha gra\dh agam ort Serbian : Volim te (most common), or Ja te volim” (less common) Shona : Ndinokuda Sioux : Techihhila Slovak : lubim ta Slovene : ljubim te (??????) Spanish : Te amo Swahili : Nakupenda Swedish : Jag a”lskar dig Swiss-German : Ch’ha di ga”rn Tagalog : Mahal kita Taiwanese : Gwa ai lee Tamil Naan Unnai Kadhalikiren (Entry by krishna connexions@theoffice.net) Thai : Phom Rak Khun Ch’an Rak Khun Tunisian : Ha eh bak Turkish : Seni seviyorum! Urdu : Mujhe tumse muhabbat hai (Entry by Magsemail@aol.com) Vietnamese : Anh ye^u em (man to woman) Em ye^u anh (woman to man) Toi yeu em Vlaams : Ik hou van jou Welsh : ‘Rwy’n dy garu di. Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi) Yiddish : Ikh hob dikh lib Zazi : Ezhele hezdege (sp?) Zuni : Tom ho’ ichema

*Bicol       ->  Philipin dialect
*Ndebele     ->  Zimbabwe
*Vlaams      ->  Belgian Dutch
*Zazi        ->  Kurdic dialect
*
*Shona       ->  Zimbabwe
*Luo         ->  Kenya
*a"          ->  a with umlaut
*e^          ->  ^ above e

LOVE

>    I’ve realized that life is indeed full of contradiction. Sometimes its crazy to be insane, you need to fall to fly, people suffer because you care. You have to unlearn to know the lesson, you have to give up because your strong you have to be wrong to make things right. Nonetheless, life’s complexities are also life’s source of beauty. We should cry to laugh again, fall apart to be whole again and get hurt to love again.

>    Staying with someone you really love even if you know its better letting go, is like standing under the rain, it felt so good but you know its not right.

>    Why do some people choose to love a cheater rather than a good one? Why do we always believe that they are good even they are not? Maybe because in love, you can’t see the bad reality of things, unless you get hurt by them. You’ll suddenly realize how worse that person is that’s the pathetic part of being in love, that sometimes even the worst person in this world can be the best person for your own belief. Love is not blind, it sees, but doesn’t mind.

>    Sometimes I wonder why sunset is more colorful than sunrise, I guess it’s an irony of life, sometimes, better things could really happen in saying goodbye.

>    Damn Story:
They argued
The next day, he gave her roses, chocolates the day after, then he asked her out for a dinner by the beach under the moonlight.
The girl was touched and asked, ‘Is this your way of
saying sorry?’ He replied, ‘No this is my way of
saying goodbye’

>    We are afraid to fall in love for we are afraid to get hurt, but when we finally fall, do you know what’s the first thing were afraid of? Its losing the one we fell in love with.

>    If you love someone never ask any opinion from others because it might get wrong, just follow your heart. For its better to fall from your own happiness than to fall from someone else advice.

>    The minute you think of giving up, just think of the reason why you were holding on for so long.

>    Sometimes its so easy to think of giving up on someone you love if you feel that he don’t love and need you anymore, but the real measure of love is not choosing to stay in a relationship even when there seems to be no reason left for you to. When you cannot find a reason to love someone anymore, then that’s the time when you have to teach yourself to love some more and give some more. Its better that you have lost love fighting for it and not because you give up too easily or simply refused to try.

>    Don’t be afraid to put your trust to someone who will love you completely, coz not all fears are right and love doesn’t always end in pain. Who knows? The one you’ve been waiting for has always been with you.

>    Minsan tinanaong ako, “kaya mo bang ibigay lahat lahat sa taong mahal mo?”
Bigla akong natahimik tapos sabi ko, “Kulang pa ba ung pumayag akong iwan nya apra magmahal sya ng iba?”

>    Question: “Can love really last a lifetime?”
Answer: Scientist found out that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12-18 months. After that, you and your partner are on your own. Love can absolutely last for a
lifetime as desired to be maintained. Meaning, its both your choice.
Bottom line: It will last, if you know how to commit.

>    Think about this, anyone can make you happy by doing something special, but only someone special can make you happy without doing anything.

>    Some people say that you don’t know what you have until you lose it, but its not like that you always know what you have, you just never thought you’d lose it.

>    Tinkerbell speaks: they say that when you leave neverland, you’d grow up and you’d meet different people who’d try and make you believe. Sometimes you’d choose the prince. He’d take you to his castle, dance with you, but would allow you to leave when the clock strikes 12. Sometimes you’d meet Spiderman, he’d give you the sweetest kiss and vanishes for all time, sometimes you’d find your Peter Pan, a guy who’d take care of you and fly with you against the winds but then you’d notice that his heart still belongs to Wendy. So I’ll be like Princes Fiona, I’ll find my Shrek, not perfect, but real and stays forever.

>    To shed tears for person is a sign of weakness, they say, but in reality it’s a mark of true strength, knowing that what the mind cant do , d heart
can best express.

>    If life was a soccer, I would be your goal keeper! I’ll defend, I’ll block, I’ll kick and even dive, coz I don’t want anyone to score, over the person who
made my game worth playing for.

>    Love isn’t forever, forever is a lie and if love comes your way you’ll never know when it’ll end or die, but love has a rhyme and always has time,
coz love is just between “Hello & Goodbye”.

>    Do you believe in this quote?
If two past lovers remain friends,
Its either they are still in love or they never were.

>    We have to realize that love is not enough to make a relationship work. We need trust, respect, time effort and total commitment. If a person doesn’t show respect, doesn’t earn your trust and cannot keep a promise. Then no matter how many times they say “I love you” those words will be empty. Take time to listen to what they don’t say. Take time to look at what they don’t  show because there are secret hidden beneath their words. So do not let passion but wisdom decide for you. Love wise coz its never easy to love and get hurt.

>    Love is like the last item on display. You have to hold it and think really hard if you really want to have it or just leave it there, otherwise you might regret seeing someone take the last piece you give up.

>    It is one of the greatest ironies of human existence that the more you love someone, the more you make vulnerable in the pain of losing them
and the more people you love, the more you increase your chances of getting hurt. Yes love makes you strong but at the same time it leaves you defenseless.

>    Never let go of anyone that you couldn’t go a day without thinking bout. There just might be a very good reason why its always on your mind.
Sometimes, it’s the brain that knows too well what the heart tries so hard to deny.

>    Being with someone doesn’t guarantee happiness. Finding your other half does. Its doesn’t matter how long you’ve been alone, how long you’ve hoped,
or how long you’ve waited there’s no such as a perfect love story. Heartaches will always be a part of loving but remember though not perfect
if that love is meant for you, it will stick with you till the end, no matter how long far from perfect but real.

>    Learn to love with all your heart and accept the unlovable side of someone for anyone can love a rose, but only a great heart can include the thorns.

>    It’s really hard to let go of someone you love, but there are times that you just have to let go not because you want it that way, its because
its more painful to hang on and wait for nothing.

>    If you think that your losing someone, never be afraid because, if that person does love you a lot, that person will take the risks just to have you back.

>    I cant fly and lift an island like SUPERMAN. But there’s one thing SUPERMAN and I have in common. Remember what he always say?  “I’m always around”

>    When a heart is true there’s no need for words coz even in silence love can be heard, destiny determines who comes into our lives
but it’s the heart that decides who stays inside.

>    Love rules:
Hold on but know when to let g,
Wait but know if there’s really someone to wait for,
Dream but know when to wake up if he doesn’t love you,
GO! MOVE ON!
Its ok to fall but know how to give up.

>    Destiny is the handmaiden of love. When two hearts are meant to be, no matter how far, how long or how hard, fate will bring them
together to share life forever.

>    Always remember that if a person loved you once, even after a hundred years there will still be some of that love left, no matter how
much that person denies it.

>    Noon akala ko madaling magmahal parang laruan na pgkagusto, makukuha mo, pagnagsawa pwede pabayaan at iwan, pero ngayon mahirap
apala di pwedeng makuha ng di pinaghihirapan at di pwedeng iwan ng di nasasaktan.

>    The fate of love is that it is always too little, don’t live your life with someone you want to live with, live it with someone you can’t live without.

>    I’ve done the bravest thing in my life, letting go of someone I love so much, but as I’ve done my bravest, I’ve felt weaker, all I could do was breakdown,
cry and wish I was never brave.

>    Love is complex, it can hurt, it can be great, but never ask anyone to define love coz love was never meant to be explained, its supposed to be felt.

>    Sometimes we believe that life has to move on. We reminisce about the past but realize that good things never last, but somehow and someway,
we silently wish to hold on to the one we once had.

>    Its not certain whether the one I have now is the one I’ll be with for the rest of my life. There’s even no guarantee for the one I just met is the
one I will love forever, because there’s no such thing as the ideal man, no such thing as the right person or the right one, its us who can make
love to last a lifetime. So if ever somebody ask me: “IS HE THE RIGHT ONE?”
I will answer:  “IM NOT SURE BUT I INTEND TO MAKE HIM MY ONLY ONE”

>    Love is not the only reason why a relationship stands for yours or till forever. We might think that love holds the relationship, but what if you love to
much and forget that love also can weaken or worse, destroy a strong relationship? I just realized that love is not enough. The secret of having
a strong, lasting relationship is to trust the one you love and to accept his/her weaknesses or mistakes. Its not how many times you have forgiven, but
how you have shown understanding.

>    Crying is hard enough, but you just cant seem to go away and leave the one you love, you keep saying enough is enough but you just couldn’t give
up coz when it comes to loving someone, enough is never enough.

>    Think twice before leaving a space in someone’s heart coz its painful to realize in the end how much you miss that space and decided to go back
only to find out that someone has take your place.

>    We cant beg someone to stay if they want to live and be with someone else, we have to admit that love doesn’t give us the license to own a person,
this is what love means “SACRIFICE”

>    Love is a noble act of self-giving, the more you love, the more you lose a part of you. Yet you do not become less of who you are, but you end
up being complete.

>    Love comes when you wont expect it,
don’t wait for someone to love you,
don’t wait for someone to love you,
don’t wait to fall in love,
don’t find and look for love,
coz sometimes, somewhere, somehow,
you’ll be falling and you’ll never realize it already happened.

>    The person meant for you is the person who’ll love you even when there’s no more to reason to love you, for in your nothingness, the one meant
for you will find what’s lovable in you.

>    When I know things are not meant for me, I learn to let go it, doesn’t mean I’m weak, but I’m just showing how strong I am to fight the urge
of wanting something I’m not supposed to have.

>    I know I can never be pushed, I can never be pushed, I can stand beyond time, I can stand against the strongest wind and surpass a shaking crust,
that’s why I’m wondering, How did you ever moved me?

>    Never expect love to be always at its best coz if you do you’ll never appreciate its existence. There will always be one true love for you to have and hold.
It may not be the one you expect but it’s the one you deserve.

>    Life ain’t  easy I know, there is pain, but I ever you’ll fall because of hurt, d2 lang ako ha, just tell me where it hurts and I’ll do to make it better.

>    Life is a band showdown I would be your band mate, I would strum, hit the drums or maybe even sing for you. why? coz its just fun to do all for
someone who makes my gig worth playing! ROCK ON!!!

>    You might find it easy to fall in love with someone
the hard thing is how to keep that someone forever?
But that’s the challenge of love
How ironic it is fighting without knowing how to win.

>    Being in love is a lot like being sick, but the irony is when you get sick, you need medicine to cure it, but when you fall in love the thing
that can cure you is the same thing that caused it.

>    There’s a difference between letting go and giving up
Letting go is sacrificing what was rightfully yours
Giving up is forgoing what was never really yours.

>    Sana sa bawat pagkakataong malungkot ka
Wag kang mahihiyang lumapit sakin
Dahil kung di kana mahal ng mundo mo
Gagawin ko lahat magkaroon lang ng mundo na puno ng pagmamahal para sayo.

>    Mahirap mgpaalam sa taong mahal mo na naging parte na ng buhay mo
Pero mas mahirap magpaalam sa taong mahal mo na ni mnsan ay di naging sayo
Pero binago ang takbo ng buhay mo

>    You’re the coolest thing life ever slapped me, I know you’re a part of my music coz as long as I have you, My life rocks.

>    Masakit sumuko sa bagay na matagal mo ng pinaglaban
Sa isang iglip biglang wala na.
Pro sa sarili mo alam mong kaya mo pa
Ang masakit laban ka ng laban
Pro TANGINA! Sinuko ka na pala.

>    Sabi nila mali daw magmahal ng sobra,
Mali din daw magmahal ng sobra
Mali din daw ang kulang
Kailangan daw yung tama lang
Pano nga ba ang magmahal ng tama?
Kung ang alam kong tama ay higit pa sa sobra.

>    Umiyak ako sa ilalim ng buwan,
Sabi ng buwan “mahal mo sinaktan ka? Iwan mo na!”
Sabi ko naman sa buwan
“bakit ikaw buwan, kaya mo bang iwanan ang langit mo?

>    Minsan papili ako ng tadhana ikaw o sya?
pinili kita dahil mahal kita
pero sa pagdaan ng panahon nawala ka, naisip ko
pinapili ka rin ba ng tadhana?

Then a woman said, “Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.”
And he answered: Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.

And how else can it be?

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?

And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?

When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”

But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy. Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced. When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

- Kahlil Gibran

Joy and sorrow are part of human condition. There is no way we can escape one or enjoy the other. There seems to be a thin line  between the two and sometimes we step over the line into each realm, crisscrossing oftentimes.

Yet, we  will  always experience both!

How many times we felt our spirits  soaring among the highest mountains or not having enough vessel to contain our joy and our happiness. Yet, inevitably, times come when we experience pain that seems so acute that we may feel we cannot bear one more moment of it.

These past days, I’ve received news from friends undergoing depressions.  Their lack of strength to fight and would just content to pass the day with  anti-depressants pills, a sniff of cocaine, a boost for alcohol, a casual sex or date with a stranger or worst,  by self inflicting wounds stirred me to reflect on joy and sorrow.

Let’s not deny it. Once in our life, we have been  tempted to numb our own pain with such delusive remedies.

We have felt times of extreme loneliness and depression. Many difficult and challenging situations have come our way which we have somehow succeeded or have failed in handling them.

Succeeded and failed…let me focus on these words.

I believe we are living and we are a victim of “success oriented society” that is why we are experiencing loss or abandonment of love, security failure and dwindling passion as depressing and painful.

FACT:  People and relationships come together and end.

Who feels the burden of guilt or blame? The one who feels “I was not good enough”,  and that leads to sadness. Self esteem is lost, one feels pain. It seems to be one has to be a successful or expert partner to have a successful and enduring relationship.

FACT:  You lost your job, your earning is not sufficient to pay your debts,  you are not happy with your job…

The “economics” or the “money system” is like  tentacles of kraken sucking out the fear in us, leaving us breathless without trust and freedom. We tend to forget that we are worthy than the birds in the sky. A Good Provider will take care of our needs if only we will learn to trust Him. Sadly, we participate in this rat race…good job means more money. More money means successful living. If we don’t have it? pain, sorrow creep in!

Why don´t we try  to celebrate what had been and allow it to  be a  new experience  suited to our level of growth?

Perhaps, only then we could bless each ending without needing to enter into blame and judgment. We can also learn to move forward  in life with less difficulty.

It has become a habit for us to judge and find fault, to blame self and others, rather than just accepting what is and riding the waves of emotion and feeling into new states of being.

We have no training in the skills of courage, perseverance and acceptance. Everytime we are buffeted by waves of negative experiences, we do not have the strength and the serenity to ride out the storm in the understanding that all is well.

We fall into sorrow and even anger.

Therefore, let us train ourselves everyday. Let us be like warriors in life: we should accept our fears and sorrows. This is just a matter of changing our expectations and perceptions. Learning to accept our sorrows, we will then be able to dance to the symphony of joy!

Joy and sorrow are one - they are inseparable. Let us have the courage to embrace both!

Source: http://quotesincan.com/2007/07/15/between-joy-and-sorrow/